At this moment in life I feel/think/see that we (people/society/morality) makes us/people feel bad about the “bad” things that happened in our lives (and pasts) and so we grow up constructing the belief that those “bad” experiences we have lived were bad, and so we become the victims of our own stories oppressed by social moralities, views and standards. By this we become damaged for real. It is the constructed belief system that defines the way we see and feel reality. Real victims do exist, but this overpower to fixate this ideas is so intimidating that many of us have no chance but to live life suffering for past events that are not a part of our present reality. We live inside lies that are not real. They are just a part of a story created by the ideas educated/imposed on us. We become stuck in the ideas that are created over us about ourselves and what is supposed to be normal. With aging some people have the ability to get back to their roots, before experience of life blured our true selves.